夜读｜“自绝式上进”，是怎么样毁掉一个人的？
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<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">对“更好自己”的苛求<span style="color: black;">背面</span>，并非健康的上进，而是“应该的暴政”。</p>
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<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">每一个</span>人都会有<span style="color: black;">作为</span>“更好自己”的<span style="color: black;">巴望</span>：要够美够瘦、要自律健康、要升职加薪、要遥遥领先……</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">带着<span style="color: black;">这般</span>的<span style="color: black;">巴望</span>，人们会督促自己去<span style="color: black;">奋斗</span>、去上进。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;">然而，有些<span style="color: black;">持有</span>过度上进心的人，对“更好自己”有着更极致的苛求。<span style="color: black;">她们</span>认定自己应该要做到全知全能、精力满满，做不到<span style="color: black;">便是</span>个失败者。</span></strong></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">因此</span>，在<span style="color: black;">这般</span>强迫性的“上进”里备受<span style="color: black;">熬煎</span>，陷入痛苦和<span style="color: black;">懊丧</span>，终日内耗焦虑。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;">这种对“更好自己”的苛求<span style="color: black;">背面</span>，并非健康的上进，而是“应该的暴政”。</span></strong></p>
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<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;">脑子里充斥着满满的“应该”</strong></span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">“我明明应该做得更好才对。”</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">这句话<span style="color: black;">没</span>时<span style="color: black;">没</span>刻不在“鞭打”着过度上进心的人，让<span style="color: black;">她们</span><span style="color: black;">持续</span>自我<span style="color: black;">可疑</span>，<span style="color: black;">每日</span>都过得<span style="color: black;">反常</span>紧绷。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">况且</span>，这种“应该”不只影响<span style="color: black;">她们</span>，还侵蚀着<span style="color: black;">各样</span>人际关系。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">她们</span>总会在<span style="color: black;">没</span><span style="color: black;">认识</span>下<span style="color: black;">亦</span>用“应该”<span style="color: black;">需求</span>伴侣，<span style="color: black;">倘若</span>伴侣做不到，<span style="color: black;">她们</span>就会生出愤怒，<span style="color: black;">乃至</span>憎恨；</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">对他人的批评过分<span style="color: black;">敏锐</span>，哪怕ta只是对事不对人，<span style="color: black;">亦</span>会倍感受伤。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">非常多</span>时候，<span style="color: black;">咱们</span><span style="color: black;">必要</span>清楚，<span style="color: black;">咱们</span>自我以为的「人生应该<span style="color: black;">怎样</span><span style="color: black;">怎样</span>」，只是外界在某个时间强加在<span style="color: black;">咱们</span>身上的观念，并不真的是适合、属于<span style="color: black;">咱们</span>的东西。</span></strong></p>
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<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;">重要的是生活，而不是生活的结果</strong></span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">面对过度的上进心，<span style="color: black;">咱们</span>应该怎么做呢？</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">首要</span><span style="color: black;">咱们</span>要先缕清，<span style="color: black;">咱们</span>的追求<span style="color: black;">是不是</span><span style="color: black;">持有</span>强迫性。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">当<span style="color: black;">咱们</span>总是驱使自己拼命去做到每一个“应该”，且这种追求到了“做不到就不配活着”的疯魔程度，那这就<span style="color: black;">已然</span>是陷入了“应该的暴政”。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;">健康的奋斗、上进是出于爱，是积极的驱动力，实现了是会满足、快乐的，没实现的话，最<span style="color: black;">大都是</span>不开心。</span></strong></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">但“应该的暴政”不是，驱动它的是恐惧和不安，实现了就避免了“祸事”，可能如释重负，但还<span style="color: black;">不可</span>开心，可没实现的话，<span style="color: black;">便是</span>全盘皆输。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">咱们</span>来人间走一趟，是为了尽情体验的，不是来追逐完美的。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">我不<span style="color: black;">必须</span><span style="color: black;">作为</span>最优秀、表现最好的人，而是我想做什么、<span style="color: black;">爱好</span>什么就只管去做，并不<span style="color: black;">必须</span>尽善尽美。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">咱们</span>是什么样的人，从<span style="color: black;">不应</span>被定义，而是任由它慢慢流动，在<span style="color: black;">每一个</span>当下去真实地体验“我是谁”“我想做什么”。</span></strong></p>
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