3岁男孩视频刷爆家长群：养废一个孩儿能有多简单？
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<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">⊰ <span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">源自</span> / 青榄家长地带（ID：educool）</span> ⊱</span></p>壹<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">近期</span>，在妈妈群里看到一个暖心视频：</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;">美国加州3岁小男孩Tydus，为妈妈准备晚餐，他独立成熟的表现让人惊艳。</span></strong></span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">他去超市推着比他还要高的购物车，买来面包等食品，到花园采来鲜花装饰餐桌，用微波炉煮千层面，用烤箱烤面包，摆放餐具、倒饮料……</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">拿果汁时，不小心摔了一大跤，果汁撒了一地，Tydus<span style="color: black;">不仅</span><span style="color: black;">无</span>哭，还赶紧爬起来用抹布仔细清理，自我解嘲道：“生活<span style="color: black;">便是</span>如此，兄弟”。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"> ▲小男孩Tydus准备晚餐视频</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">意见</span>WiFi<span style="color: black;">要求</span>下观看</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">他的投入、专注和自控，让群里的一众老母亲高呼感动。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">看着视频，<span style="color: black;">忍不住</span>联想到，前段时间<span style="color: black;">博客</span>上一条让人哭笑不得的<span style="color: black;">资讯</span>。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">一男子因<span style="color: black;">运用</span>假驾照被罚款5000元和拘留15天，父母却质问交警：</span><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;">“你们太过分了！他还是个<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>，才31岁！<span style="color: black;">为何</span>罚<span style="color: black;">那样</span>重？”</strong></span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">31岁还是个<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>？还这么理直气壮？是有多可笑。</span></p>
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<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;">美国3岁的小男孩有如此强的独立<span style="color: black;">认识</span>，反观咱们的31岁男人却长<span style="color: black;">成为了</span>巨婴。是<span style="color: black;">由于</span><span style="color: black;">咱们</span>的<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>天生不如别人的<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>吗？</span></strong></span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">当然不是。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">只是，<span style="color: black;">非常多</span>时候，<span style="color: black;">咱们</span>是那样爱<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>，习惯了竭尽所能事事代劳，却忘记了要放开手让<span style="color: black;">她们</span>独立处事，习得<span style="color: black;">处理</span>问题的能力和克服困难的勇气。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;">有智慧的父母，对<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>爱得更深沉，懂得慢慢放开手，让他学会独立。</strong></span></p>贰<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">还记得被退学的神童魏永康吗？</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">他有着闪闪发光的履历，13岁考上重点大学，是当时湖南年龄最小的本科生，17岁考上中科院硕博连读<span style="color: black;">科研</span>生。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;">前途一片光明之际，却在20岁时被中科院退学，<span style="color: black;">原由</span>是生活<span style="color: black;">不可</span>自理独立。</span></strong></span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">原来，他母亲认为<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span><span style="color: black;">仅有</span>一心一意读书才会有出息，于是包揽<span style="color: black;">所有</span>家务，<span style="color: black;">包含</span>帮他洗衣、洗澡，直到高中还喂饭，大学还住进宿舍陪读。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">到了中科院，离开了母亲，魏永康像个<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span><span style="color: black;">同样</span>，<span style="color: black;">没法</span>料理自己事务，学习上<span style="color: black;">不可</span>适应中科院独立自主的<span style="color: black;">科研</span>模式，生活上大冬天穿着单衣拖鞋到天安门闲逛。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">被退学后，他几近奔溃，母亲<span style="color: black;">亦</span>痛心疾首。</span></p>
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<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"> ▲魏永康</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">有人说：“从不教<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>独立的父母，是最无知最残忍的。<span style="color: black;">她们</span>就像老鹰不教小鹰飞翔，却在成年后不由分说把它推下悬崖。”</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">深以为然。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;">而把<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>养成巨婴，坑了<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>，更苦了父母。</strong></span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">一个44岁无业儿子<span style="color: black;">每日</span>把83岁母亲送到火车站乞讨，以养活自己；</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">一位老阿姨走在路上<span style="color: black;">忽然</span>被儿子暴打，<span style="color: black;">原由</span>是拿不出2万元为他还债。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">在这些早该独立的<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>看来，父母养活自己理所当然，全无半点感恩反哺之心。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">作家刘墉说：“<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>不懂得<span style="color: black;">爱惜</span>，<span style="color: black;">由于</span>他已变成笼子里的小鸟，天天等你喂。他<span style="color: black;">没法</span>独立，觉得你是欠他的，你到时候就该喂他。”</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;">不懂放手的父母，给<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>的<span style="color: black;">实质</span>不是爱，而是害</strong></span><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;">。</strong></span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">而以爱之名，<span style="color: black;">掠夺</span><span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>成长的权利和独立的能力，父母曾经替<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>走过的路，日后终将变成爬不出的深坑，祸害彼此。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><img src="https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_jpg/NO42MuvlYNtBETRqB4Gn7goMl4Hlia5ZDPIAYPYbnicGqdyHJVZdQVRYIsBrxIV5xh6yR5oOciaDxnyKUe8o300YA/640?wx_fmt=jpeg&tp=webp&wxfrom=5&wx_lazy=1&wx_co=1" style="width: 50%; margin-bottom: 20px;"></p>叁<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">为人父母，<span style="color: black;">咱们</span>难免担心<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>还小，<span style="color: black;">不可</span>好好照顾自己。总<span style="color: black;">忽略</span>了：</span><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;">成长过程中，<span style="color: black;">巴望</span>独立和自我完善本是<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>与生俱来的能力和渴求。</strong></span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">我的<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>大约3岁时，就有了<span style="color: black;">剧烈</span>的独立<span style="color: black;">认识</span>，什么事都要自己做，却动作迟缓让人发狂。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">一次出门前，我强忍住不耐烦，让他自己挑衣服穿衣服。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">没想到，<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>折腾完后，<span style="color: black;">忽然</span>跑来亲了我一下，成就感满满地说：“谢谢妈妈！”</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">这声意外的谢谢，让我醒悟，比起我为他做些什么，他更<span style="color: black;">期盼</span>我不要去干涉他。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><img src="https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_jpg/NO42MuvlYNtBETRqB4Gn7goMl4Hlia5ZDoOYac2q7W8tdxL8Ze8LEMMI4icKbbl7w4HZEWkO8RUl1Hv8ibXBnWXFg/640?wx_fmt=jpeg&tp=webp&wxfrom=5&wx_lazy=1&wx_co=1" style="width: 50%; margin-bottom: 20px;"></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;">而当父母习惯放手让<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>大胆尝试，<span style="color: black;">她们</span>的表现<span style="color: black;">常常</span>让人惊叹。</span></strong></span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">樊登老师曾分享过一个故事：</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">他的一位<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span><span style="color: black;">非常</span>注重鼓励女儿自己<span style="color: black;">处理</span>问题，把<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>培养得非常独立。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">14岁时，<span style="color: black;">女子</span>去美国留学，自己收拾行李，独自飞行了27个小时。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">到达后，才<span style="color: black;">晓得</span>美国不<span style="color: black;">准许</span>15岁以下的<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>单独飞行，<span style="color: black;">女子</span>被扣在机场。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">女子</span>给爸妈打<span style="color: black;">tel</span><span style="color: black;">通知</span><span style="color: black;">状况</span>，她人在她乡只身一人，却淡定地说，让我试试自己<span style="color: black;">处理</span>。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">女子</span>向警察展示了一系列文件，证明自己是来读书的，解释是<span style="color: black;">由于</span>不<span style="color: black;">认识</span>年龄限制，买了机票就一个人飞来。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">后来，警察给她放行，机长<span style="color: black;">亦</span>很欣赏她，邀请她到驾驶舱参观，与机组人员合影，一时传为佳话。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">作家李月亮曾说：</span><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;">“为人父母，最大的成<span style="color: black;">便是</span>培养出会与世界相处的<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>。”</strong></span></span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">诚然，独立会处事的<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>，无论去到什么<span style="color: black;">地区</span>，都能把事情做好，都会受到欢迎。</span></p>
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<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">每一个</span><span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>在刚出生时和母亲的关系是共生的，母亲无微不至照顾<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>，<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span><span style="color: black;">亦</span><span style="color: black;">经过</span>母亲表达<span style="color: black;">需要</span>。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">只是，随着<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>年龄增长能力<span style="color: black;">提高</span>，这种共生关系，需要父母亲手去剪断。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">仅有</span>和父母在心理上剥离，在行动上独立，<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span><span style="color: black;">才可</span>真正得到成长。唯有父母懂得放手，<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span><span style="color: black;">才可</span><span style="color: black;">持有</span>独<span style="color: black;">自动</span>走<span style="color: black;">一辈子</span>的能力。</span></strong></span></p>肆<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;">父母<span style="color: black;">怎么样</span>做，<span style="color: black;">才可</span>培养出有独立能力的<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>？</span></strong></span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">美国家教类图书销量排名<span style="color: black;">第1</span>的育儿书，《<span style="color: black;">怎样</span>说<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>才会听，怎么听<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>才肯说》<span style="color: black;">说到</span>几个<span style="color: black;">详细</span><span style="color: black;">办法</span>：</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;">听一听，让<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>自己<span style="color: black;">选取</span></span></strong></span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">非常多</span>父母认为<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>小什么都不懂，放权给<span style="color: black;">她们</span><span style="color: black;">选取</span>容易犯错。然而，<span style="color: black;">倘若</span><span style="color: black;">始终</span>不让<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span><span style="color: black;">选取</span>，<span style="color: black;">亦</span>不让<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>犯错误，<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>将<span style="color: black;">没法</span>成长。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">一次，台湾著名主持人吴淡如给女儿买了一件新衣服，女儿很<span style="color: black;">爱好</span>，尽管天气很热衣服太厚<span style="color: black;">亦</span>要穿上。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">她明<span style="color: black;">晓得</span>不合适还是忍住<span style="color: black;">无</span>制止。穿出去没多久，女儿就说，太热了还是换掉吧。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">吴淡如感叹：“<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>都有判断能力，<span style="color: black;">选取</span>错不可怕，重要的是在错误中学会识别和自我纠正。”</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">所说</span>独立，<span style="color: black;">便是</span>从一次次细小<span style="color: black;">选取</span>、承担后果、纠正错误过程中习得的能力。</span></strong></span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><img src="https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_jpg/NO42MuvlYNtBETRqB4Gn7goMl4Hlia5ZDjDzatcCicc1m4F4I9EKtIUwafAEicUJ1hZdG5x9iagLggdGx9zibf2puqw/640?wx_fmt=jpeg&tp=webp&wxfrom=5&wx_lazy=1&wx_co=1" style="width: 50%; margin-bottom: 20px;"></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;">忍一忍，让<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>做力所能及的事</span></strong></span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>的独立从“自己的事情自己做”<span style="color: black;">起始</span>，父母要忍住不插手。</span></strong></span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">6岁前，父母<span style="color: black;">能够</span>让<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>学会自理，<span style="color: black;">例如</span>穿衣刷牙洗澡等。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">上小学后父母<span style="color: black;">能够</span>让<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>做<span style="color: black;">有些</span>力所能及的家务，<span style="color: black;">例如</span>倒垃圾、扫地、擦桌椅等。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">教育家陈鹤琴先生说：</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">凡是<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>自己能做的事，让他自己去做。</p>
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<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">自己的事情<span style="color: black;">必定</span>要亲自去做。</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">哪怕你完成得<span style="color: black;">无</span>别人好，<span style="color: black;">亦</span>要去做。<span style="color: black;">仅有</span>一次一次的<span style="color: black;">欠好</span>，<span style="color: black;">才可</span>换来以后的完善。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">倘若</span>总是依赖别人，<span style="color: black;">那样</span>你的<span style="color: black;">一辈子</span>将始终与贫穷和低声下气为伴。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">深以为然。自己的事情都做<span style="color: black;">欠好</span>，将来凭什么能力进入社会。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><img src="https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_jpg/NO42MuvlYNtBETRqB4Gn7goMl4Hlia5ZDibSFEXDlx1fNRRrZahviciaZWlgRibwImD8d3PgjNiae3tBCgibRQ9ibBiaY8A/640?wx_fmt=jpeg&tp=webp&wxfrom=5&wx_lazy=1&wx_co=1" style="width: 50%; margin-bottom: 20px;"></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;">缓一缓，鼓励<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>自己<span style="color: black;">处理</span>问题</span></strong></span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;">最高级的独立，是<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>能自己<span style="color: black;">处理</span>问题，这需要父母有<span style="color: black;">认识</span>培养。</span></strong></span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">曾经看过一个泰国短片，短片中卖菠萝的妈妈说自己没读过书，不<span style="color: black;">晓得</span>怎么教<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>，只懂得鼓励<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>自己<span style="color: black;">处理</span>问题。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">女儿不懂得怎么切菠萝，她没帮忙，而是在一旁切，让<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>学。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">女儿想去卖菠萝冰棒，她<span style="color: black;">无</span>帮忙而是让女儿自己去卖。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">女儿的菠萝冰棒卖不出去，问怎么办？她<span style="color: black;">无</span>帮忙，而是让女儿去市场<span style="color: black;">瞧瞧</span>别人怎么卖东西。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">最后女儿从市场上学会了售卖技巧，菠萝冰棒<span style="color: black;">所有</span>卖空。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">▲泰国短片</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">意见</span>WiFi<span style="color: black;">要求</span>下观看</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">成长</span>以后，<span style="color: black;">女子</span><span style="color: black;">得到</span>了奖学金，完<span style="color: black;">成为了</span>本科学业。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;">当<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>向你提问、向你求助时，不必立即伸出援手，缓一缓，让<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>自己试着去<span style="color: black;">处理</span>，独立能力就会慢慢<span style="color: black;">提高</span>。</span></strong></span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;">最重要的，是信任<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span><span style="color: black;">能够</span>自己做到</span></strong></span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">转变<span style="color: black;">无</span>父母的照顾和监督，<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>就做<span style="color: black;">欠好</span>事情的观念。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;">跳出固有的经验，相信<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>内在成长的力量，给<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>有规则的爱与自由，放手让<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>去体验。</span></strong></span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">经过</span>鼓励和引导，让<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>学会做人和<span style="color: black;">办事</span>的正确<span style="color: black;">办法</span>，而不是事事代劳。</span></p>伍<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">近期</span>，一段戳心视频在<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>圈疯传，感动无数网友。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">11岁<span style="color: black;">女子</span>高雅天生<span style="color: black;">眼瞎</span>，可妈妈却让她独自上学。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">上学的路<span style="color: black;">不外</span>368米，寻<span style="color: black;">一般人</span>5分钟能走完，她却要用导盲棒敲打路数千次，走了整整15分钟。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">高雅不<span style="color: black;">晓得</span>的是，她的身后，妈妈<span style="color: black;">始终</span>默默跟随，为她阻挡车流，或近或远不曾<span style="color: black;">离开</span>。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><img src="data:image/svg+xml,%3C%3Fxml version=1.0 encoding=UTF-8%3F%3E%3Csvg width=1px height=1px viewBox=0 0 1 1 version=1.1 xmlns=http://www.w3.org/2000/svg xmlns:xlink=http://www.w3.org/1999/xlink%3E%3Ctitle%3E%3C/title%3E%3Cg stroke=none stroke-width=1 fill=none fill-rule=evenodd fill-opacity=0%3E%3Cg transform=translate(-249.000000, -126.000000) fill=%23FFFFFF%3E%3Crect x=249 y=126 width=1 height=1%3E%3C/rect%3E%3C/g%3E%3C/g%3E%3C/svg%3E" style="width: 50%; margin-bottom: 20px;"></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">妈妈本<span style="color: black;">能够</span>直接送女儿上学，但她说：“<span style="color: black;">仅有</span><span style="color: black;">这般</span>，<span style="color: black;">才可</span>让她真正自信、独立。总有一天，我和她爸爸会离开这个世界，一切要自己克服。”</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;">父母之爱子，则为之计深远。</span></strong></span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">就如著名心理学家西尔维亚所说：“这世上所有的爱都以聚合为目的，<span style="color: black;">仅有</span>一种爱指向分离，那<span style="color: black;">便是</span>父母对<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>的爱。”</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">为人父母无论多么爱<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>，都<span style="color: black;">无</span>能力和时间陪他走完人生的下半场。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;">真正爱<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>，是给他以独立的人格和力量，让他能接管自己的生活。</strong></span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;">父母能给<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>最好的爱，是懂得体面退出的爱，父母对<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>最真切的关怀，除了手牵手，还有放开手。</span></strong></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">请别忘记，唯有让<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>生出独立的翅膀，才是对他最恒久的爱和祝福。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;">-作者简介-</span></strong></span></strong></span></p>
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