期末将至，最伤孩儿的十句话，请嘴下留情！
<span style="color: black;">每次和<span style="color: black;">朋友</span>们聊天，小艾都有一个感受：<span style="color: black;">此刻</span><span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>的压力真的很大。虽然减负的口号<span style="color: black;">无</span>停过，<span style="color: black;">然则</span>学生身上的压力却越来越大了。</span><p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">还记得衡水中学一个“实验班”女生给父母打<span style="color: black;">tel</span>痛苦的视频上了热搜，原来是<span style="color: black;">由于</span>模拟考，数学<span style="color: black;">尤其</span>难，考得<span style="color: black;">不睬</span>想，和<span style="color: black;">朋友</span>们差距拉大，和普通班水平<span style="color: black;">同样</span>。看着<span style="color: black;">女子</span>痛哭的背影，真的让人心疼。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">期末考试即将来临，<span style="color: black;">非常多</span>学生在后台留言，<span style="color: black;">暗示</span>压力很大，毕竟这是年前的最后一次考试，这次考试成绩的好坏，严重影响着<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>过年的心情和状态，<span style="color: black;">更加多</span>的<span style="color: black;">朋友</span><span style="color: black;">暗示</span>，害怕成绩<span style="color: black;">不睬</span>想，回家被父母批评，更有<span style="color: black;">朋友</span><span style="color: black;">暗示</span>，一听到父母唠叨就烦，直接回房间戴上耳机。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">其实，父母都是望子成龙，为了<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>有个好<span style="color: black;">将来</span>，<span style="color: black;">持续</span>督促他进步，可一句好话能让<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>重拾<span style="color: black;">自信心</span>，一句<span style="color: black;">欠好</span>的话却能让<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>陷入自卑</span></p><span style="color: black;">1</span><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;">最伤<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>的10句话</strong></span><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;">1. 你怎么这么笨！</strong></span><span style="color: black;">当别人说你笨的时候，是什么感觉？</span><span style="color: black;">失落、窘迫、愤怒…… </span><span style="color: black;">这些在<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>身上，不会减少，只会放大。</span><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>的承受和判断能力都<span style="color: black;">无</span>完善，很容易被别人的话所影响。 </span><span style="color: black;">对<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>要多点耐心和<span style="color: black;">自信心</span>，<span style="color: black;">能够</span>换成：</span><span style="color: black;">错了<span style="color: black;">不碍事</span>，再试几次<span style="color: black;">必定</span>会成功的；做到<span style="color: black;">这般</span><span style="color: black;">已然</span>很<span style="color: black;">不易</span>了呢！</span><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;">2. 哭什么哭，你还有脸哭？</strong></span><span style="color: black;">“哭什么哭，再哭我打你了！”</span><span style="color: black;">“你<span style="color: black;">瞧瞧</span>别人，谁像你这么爱哭！”</span><span style="color: black;">“哭有什么用.....” </span><span style="color: black;">有些爸妈一听<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>哭，就心烦意乱<span style="color: black;">马上</span>阻止，尤其<span style="color: black;">有些</span>男孩的父母认为，男<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>哭缺少男子汉气质，坚决不<span style="color: black;">准许</span><span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>哭，<span style="color: black;">乃至</span>告诉<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>哭很丢脸。 </span><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>委屈时，哭<span style="color: black;">能够</span>缓解<span style="color: black;">心情</span>。</span><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>年龄小，不懂得<span style="color: black;">怎样</span>调节<span style="color: black;">心情</span>，想哭就让他哭会吧。</span><span style="color: black;">父母<span style="color: black;">能够</span>耐心等<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>哭完后再跟他讲道理，请<span style="color: black;">重视</span>别在<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>哭的兴头上讲，<span style="color: black;">由于</span><span style="color: black;">此时</span>候<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>听不进去；</span><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">亦</span>别为了不让<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>哭而妥协，这会让<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>以后拿哭做杀手锏来达到目的。</span><img src="https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_gif/ULn8bv8FqZszBahZPO9ALPAqkvrrKKqlq5KQx2jE0EPNc3F8HOckueYHMxXUGUyfBodlPSbnDGfDtKrd8iajCqQ/640?wx_fmt=gif&tp=webp&wxfrom=5&wx_lazy=1" style="width: 50%; margin-bottom: 20px;"><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;">3. 我以后再<span style="color: black;">亦</span>不会相信你了。</strong></span><span style="color: black;">谁家<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>还没撒过几个小谎啊，爸妈<span style="color: black;">发掘</span>了怎么应对才是关键！ </span><span style="color: black;">都<span style="color: black;">晓得</span>撒谎不是好事，但打骂<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>只会让他更不敢说真话。</span><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>屡教不改，父母气急就会说出“我以后再<span style="color: black;">亦</span>不会相信你了”这种话。 </span><span style="color: black;">爸妈不信任<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>，<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>会很受伤，连最亲近的父母都不相信他，还有谁相信呢？</span><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>会更加内向<span style="color: black;">敏锐</span>，缺乏安全感。<span style="color: black;">因此</span>，<span style="color: black;">发掘</span>问题<span style="color: black;">必定</span>要跟<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>好好说哦。</span><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;">4.你太不争气了，我对你很失望。</strong></span><span style="color: black;">父母总是对<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>抱有很大的期望，这种期望强加在<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>身上，就变<span style="color: black;">成为了</span>压力，<span style="color: black;">亦</span>就<span style="color: black;">引起</span>了父母们的期望越大，失望越大。</span><span style="color: black;">父母<span style="color: black;">倘若</span>经常说这句话，<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>会越来越不相信自己，失去自信，觉得自己很“蠢”，什么都做<span style="color: black;">欠好</span>。</span><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>得不到父母的肯定，自尊心一点一点的被父母的话所磨灭，到最后索性就不学好了，越来越叛逆，成绩越来越差。</span><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;">5. 我说不行<span style="color: black;">便是</span>不行。</strong></span><span style="color: black;">你说不行就不行啊，为人父母<span style="color: black;">亦</span>得讲道理不是！</span><span style="color: black;">这一招确实有效，<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>听过之后十有八九不会再“反驳”。</span><span style="color: black;">但，这并不<span style="color: black;">寓意</span>着<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>就此信服，暂时的沉默会在一次次累计之后，形成更严重的反抗。 </span><span style="color: black;">惧怕不等于信服，口服不等于心服，家长的威信<span style="color: black;">不该</span>该用在逼<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>就范上。</span><span style="color: black;">要尊重<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>的<span style="color: black;">选取</span>，遇到<span style="color: black;">歧义</span>多跟<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>商量，而不是简单粗暴的“一言堂”。</span><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;">6. 你<span style="color: black;">瞧瞧</span>人家XXX。</strong></span><span style="color: black;">别人家的<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>听话懂事学习好，早起早睡抢着做家务，天天看书从不玩游戏。 </span><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">非常多</span><span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>都是听着父母讲“别人家的<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>”<span style="color: black;">成长</span>的，父母们总是夸大别人<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>的优点跟自己<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>的缺点比，多少<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>心里<span style="color: black;">亦</span>曾偷偷的想过：你<span style="color: black;">亦</span>不如别人的父母啊。 </span><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">每一个</span><span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>都不是完美的，都有自己的优点和特长，聪明的父母善于<span style="color: black;">发掘</span><span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>的优点，发掘<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>的<span style="color: black;">潜能</span>，而不是只看到<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>的缺点，贬低<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>的能力。</span><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;">7. 下次能考满分，就给你买。</strong></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">首要</span>，用物质鼓励<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span><span style="color: black;">奋斗</span>学习就不可取。</span><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">由于</span>这只能激起<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>短暂的学习欲望，而并不是内心潜在的学习兴趣和动力。还容易养成错误的金钱观。 </span><span style="color: black;">其次，给<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>定的<span style="color: black;">目的</span>要切合<span style="color: black;">实质</span>，是那种<span style="color: black;">奋斗</span>一把能够实现的。</span><span style="color: black;">平时只能考及格，非要考满分<span style="color: black;">才可</span>买，那不是为难<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>吗？哪里还有<span style="color: black;">自信心</span>去达成！</span><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;">8.你可真行啊，学好不行学坏快。</strong></span><span style="color: black;">
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">有些爸妈总<span style="color: black;">忽略</span><span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>的优点，放大他的缺点，<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>做错事，指出来就好啊，不要说反话讽刺<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>，<span style="color: black;">损伤</span>他的自尊心。 </p>
</span><span style="color: black;">其实，多想想<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span><span style="color: black;">为何</span>会犯<span style="color: black;">这般</span>的错误，帮他改正，即使避免不了跟<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>争论，<span style="color: black;">亦</span>好过不明就理，一错再错！犯了错，改了就好了<span style="color: black;">吗</span>！</span><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;">9. 算了，看你以后<span style="color: black;">亦</span>不会有出息。</strong></span><span style="color: black;">既然你都这么说了，<span style="color: black;">亦</span>不要怪<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>放弃自己！</span><span style="color: black;">父母<span style="color: black;">持续</span>说这句话，<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>就会信以为真。一旦遇到困难，很容易放弃自己，轻易妥协；失败之后<span style="color: black;">亦</span><span style="color: black;">无</span>从头再来的勇气，一蹶不振。 </span><span style="color: black;">父母的否定和不看好，其实给了<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>放弃自己的理由。</span><span style="color: black;">永远不要对<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>说“你不行的”，赏识和信任才是他突破自己的动力所在。</span><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;">10. 为了妈妈，你努点力好么。</strong></span><span style="color: black;">有些父母为了让<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>好好学习，采用激将法刺激<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>，有些父母则是打起了亲情牌。 </span><span style="color: black;">“你看妈妈为了你，工作<span style="color: black;">那样</span>辛苦，舍不得吃舍不得穿，把所有最好的都给你了，你就算为了妈妈，好好学习行不行？” </span><span style="color: black;">这句话的确会给<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span><span style="color: black;">导致</span>很大的心理冲击，有些<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>会觉得自己是个<span style="color: black;">负担</span>，给父母造<span style="color: black;">成为了</span>困扰，带着很大的心理压力去学习，能学好吗？</span><span style="color: black;">有些父母老了会说，我的<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>不爱回家，虽然对<span style="color: black;">咱们</span>从不吝啬，却<span style="color: black;">亦</span><span style="color: black;">无</span>亲子间的温情。 </span><span style="color: black;">其实，你们<span style="color: black;">本来</span><span style="color: black;">能够</span>和<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span><span style="color: black;">作为</span><span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>。别让这些刀子伤了<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>的心，这些话，千万别对<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>说了！</span><img src="https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_gif/ULn8bv8FqZszBahZPO9ALPAqkvrrKKqlH8ps5ZIYBa04Ea7pSKId7UlR0cia3T5qdVKpkNVomOjwiaTTSyIjhwlQ/640?wx_fmt=gif&tp=webp&wxfrom=5&wx_lazy=1" style="width: 50%; margin-bottom: 20px;"><span style="color: black;">2</span><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;">给爸爸妈妈的3句<span style="color: black;">敬告</span></span></strong></span><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;">1.成长比成功重要——输得起的<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>最成功</strong></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">此刻</span>的父母有个奇怪的现象，什么都替<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>干，认为<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>的任务<span style="color: black;">便是</span>念书。</span><span style="color: black;">我组织夏令营，一个很小的<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>看着煮鸡蛋发呆。</span><span style="color: black;">我说“你不爱吃吗？”</span><span style="color: black;">“爱吃！”“那你怎么不吃呢？”</span><span style="color: black;">“这鸡蛋跟<span style="color: black;">咱们</span>家鸡蛋长得不<span style="color: black;">同样</span>！”</span><span style="color: black;">“你们家鸡蛋长什么样？”</span><span style="color: black;">“<span style="color: black;">咱们</span>家鸡蛋是白的、软的，这鸡蛋太硬咬不动！”</span><span style="color: black;">后来一问才<span style="color: black;">晓得</span>，这<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>从小就没见过家人煮鸡蛋、剥鸡蛋的过程，都是摆好了切成四块放在面前吃。</span><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">因此</span>别老预设结果，而要<span style="color: black;">注重</span>成长过程，走好脚下的路，输得起的<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>才是最成功的<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>！</span><img src="https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_gif/ULn8bv8FqZszBahZPO9ALPAqkvrrKKqlLHwnmt1Qd9u1l9PWQU00yXWBp5qPEmdT771tcYjLwBUiaY4fw5GwgOA/640?wx_fmt=gif&tp=webp&wxfrom=5&wx_lazy=1" style="width: 50%; margin-bottom: 20px;"><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;">2.付出比给予重要——给<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>爱你的机会</strong></span><span style="color: black;">只对<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>付出爱，会让<span style="color: black;">她们</span><span style="color: black;">无</span>责任感，只会一味索取。</span><span style="color: black;">一位下岗女工<span style="color: black;">晓得</span><span style="color: black;">孩儿</span><span style="color: black;">爱好</span>吃虾，咬牙从市场买来，看<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>吃得津津有味，自己舍不得动筷子，眼看<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>已吃完饭，妈妈忍不住想尝一口，“别动！”13岁的<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>说“那是我的”。</span><span style="color: black;">过分溺爱、无限纵容滋长了<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>的自私，使<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>心中<span style="color: black;">仅有</span>自己，<span style="color: black;">无</span>别人。</span><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;">3.对话比对抗有效——别跟<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>“较劲”</strong></span><span style="color: black;">青春期的<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>正处在成人感<span style="color: black;">快速</span><span style="color: black;">加强</span>，但心理却不成熟的时期，他<span style="color: black;">期盼</span>得到<span style="color: black;">成人</span>的尊重，又对父母缺少基本的信任，<span style="color: black;">因此呢</span>逆反心理很强，心灵的<span style="color: black;">前门</span>只朝着同龄人开放，<span style="color: black;">此时</span>候他<span style="color: black;">尤其</span>需要心灵关怀，需要理解。</span><span style="color: black;">别只盯着人家，大胆为<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>喝彩，相信你的<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span><span style="color: black;">亦</span>非常优秀！</span>
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